Ten Years Old!


I should have written this post a long time ago. I have a new 10 year old. This young lady is beautiful, smart, and funny. She loves to create new outfits (like every day and sometimes twice a day). She really does have great style. She is also so athletic. Loves science and sports and music and has a competitive spirit. I can tell that once we get her some music lessons she is going to take off with that. Like her Papa she can pick out a tune on the piano very easily. Her birthday was simple but lots of fun. We went to the movies to see Annie and then back to 

Nana's house for pizza and cake. She chose cupcakes. The lighting was poor and I was tired so I got very few photos. I wish I would have taken more. She is so beautiful and I am so proud of her! Among her birthday presents was a Kindle Fire and a fish tank! She has been having a lot of fun learning to take care of her fish and I can hardly get her off her tablet.      

32 Weeks Pregnancy Update

Today I am 32 weeks and 5 days. This picture is a little cheesy but I am getting excited! The final stretch is getting shorter and shorter. It seems like an eternity until I look at my very long to-do list.   

We had a bout of illness in the house. I had some uncomfortable things going on like a lot of braxton hicks contractions and round-ligament pain that would not let up. So we spent several weeks just recovering and I spent a lot of time in bed. It was not the best for my plan to stay active, and my diet consisted of more convenience foods than I wanted. But I am back at the gym now and my meals are healthier. I have modified workouts to avoid overtaxing my body. I feel so good when I lift weights that I cannot give that up yet. Picking up laundry and toys is another story. Funny how physical exertion in the gym feels good but the daily grind is sometimes excruciating. Endorphins?  

I have never had a baby before week  40 42  .  BUT in just 4 short weeks I will be 37 weeks (full-term) and that is at least when it would be possible to have him! I know I need to remain patient and give this baby all the time he needs. I have really preferred the labors where the baby is larger (9 lbs.) anyway and there is a better chance of that if I go into labor after 40 weeks. If he comes before 40 weeks I wont complain though!! I am really secretly (now not so secretly) hoping for a birthday in February. I am collecting months. Right now I have children with the birthdays in the following months: October (1), November (2), December (1), January (1), and March (1). February would complete the sequence.  

This part of pregnancy is not only physically taxing but psychologically taxing. It is hard to wait. The most important thing though is to prepare mentally for labor by relaxing through braxton hicks contractions and thinking positively. As new-agey as it may sound, visualizing a positive birth experience and telling yourself you can do it really helps labor go better. Also watching peaceful hypnobirths on yYouTube helps. I do not practice hypnobirthing but I definitely tend to remain calm and quiet and try to be as relaxed as possible through labor. When you fight the contractions and fear the pain the pain is exaggerated. By relaxing as thoroughly as possible through contractions your body is able to do more work and you feel much less pain. 
  
It is also important to prepare mentally for postpartum recovery when things get tricky taking care of yourself and baby and siblings and husband. While the husband will be taking care of you mostly, there is still a relationship that has to be nurtured.  I find it absolutely crucial to envision life after birth  rather than only focusing on labor day. Once the baby is here life continues on with the same necessities as before but there is one more person to consider. So it helps me to set goals for the future and to spend time thinking about how they will be accomplished and how wonderful it will be accomplishing them with my family a little bit bigger.  

Overall I cannot complain much. I am feeling huge and uncomfortable and getting out of bed is a big ordeal.  But I have good health (except the flu and the cold that I have battled since before Christmas), the baby is doing well, and I am nearing the end of pregnancy. I have a supportive husband and a beautiful family. All in all things are great!  I will say that one seemingly silly thing that is really affecting me is that I have definitely reached the point where I desperately crave sleeping on my stomach. Does that happen to other moms? I daydream about it and sometimes almost get in a panic I want it so badly. That is one of my favorite things after birth--getting to roll over and rest on my stomach and give my hips and knees a break or (even though I am not a back sleeper) that first time I get to just lie down fully reclined flat on my back wtihout feeling like I am going to pass out. I will still spend much of my nights on my side after baby is born because of nursing in bed but even that is different because I will be a good 20 pounds lighter! 

On the Second Day of Christmas

On the second day of Christmas grandma and grandpa came to visit. I was a lame photographer because the company was so good. But I did manage to take a few photos of our cookie decorating operation. I knew I would not be up to making gingerbread this year so I bought a gingerbread and snowman cookie kit at Costco on clearance (a week before Christmas!). They might not have been as good as homemade, but they seemed to please the palletes that mattered.  







Grandma brought everyone handmade jewelry.  Mr. Trucks was thrilled to have his own manly bracelet.  We also exchanged gifts. The boys got the coolest toy called twister tracks. It has been a big hit around the house with everyone.   



The girls got very creative with the snowman cookie and made Charlie Brown characters. This is Lucy. 

 After Grandma and Grandpa left Papa played monopoly with the older girls. It was a loooooooong game. But they had fun. Our little philosopher in pink took the win and obliterated everyone.

Gaudete Sunday




We are half way through! I have a lot of the shopping done but still need to get a few gifts and this week we need to make some cookies!!! I also have a few sewing projects to do as well--want to make some gifts for friends.

The song above is one of our favorite Christmas carols. We changed the words to fit for Advent because naturally we think of it when it is Gaudete Sunday! The words of the original chorus of this medieval Christmas carol are:

Gaudete! Gaudete! Christus est natus ex Maria virgine. Gaudete!
Rejoice! Rejoice! Christ is born of the Virgin Mary. Rejoice!

For advent we changed them to:

Gaudete! Gaudete! Christus naturus ex Maria virgine. Gaudete!
Rejoice! Rejoice! Christ will be born of the Virgin Mary. Rejoice!


How We Celebrate the Feast of St. Lucy

Tomorrow is the feast of St. Lucy. It is a big deal in many countries and I have always admired the various traditions surrounding this beautiful day.  My children particularly love the story of St. Lucy's bravery and how she endured such tortures as losing her eyes all for the love of God. I still have not gotten any of them to have fake eyeballs on a plate for Halloween though. I think it is really important to tell the stories of the martyrs even though they are gruesome. Some might shy away from tales of saints dying horrible deaths but I really believe it helps them understand the depth of the love we should have for God (and the depth of the love he had for us!). It also encourages bravery in the face of the many little trials they encounter in life.  And if God sees fit, it will inspire them in the face of any great trials they encounter.

The most famous celebrations on St. Lucy's day come from Sweden. Most people are familiar with the image of a young girl dressed in white with a wreath of candles on her head. There is something so magical and whimsical about it! Someday perhaps, when I decide to buy an authentic Swedish wreath, I will start such a tradition. For now I feel too far removed from the customs of Sweden to start this at my house. There are so many celebrations at this time of year that I need to keep things simple. I would not dream of leaving out her feast day though so we have our own little way of celebrating.

St. Lucy's name means light and that theme is an integral part of the celebration of her feast all over the world. So for us it seems the perfect time to go out and look at Christmas lights! It is convenient because most people take their Christmas lights down immediately after Christmas day (when...ahem...they should just be getting started with festivities) and we never feel like we fully get to enjoy them. By celebrating the feast of St. Lucy we are able to enjoy them with purpose even though we are right in the middle of Advent. This year we will go see the Light Parade in town which happens to fall on St. Lucy's day. I am packing cookies and hot chocolate and plenty of coats and blankets. Before heading out to the parade we will read the story of St. Lucy. I might, just might, wake the children to a candlelit breakfast and read the story then.

If you have not planned anything for the feast of St. Lucy why not read the story of her life and go to a light parade? Or zoolights? Or if you don't have a light parade tomorrow, hop in the car with travel mugs of hot cocoa and drive through the best neighborhood Christmas lights you can find!

Happy Feast of St. Lucy!

A Day in Which We Enjoy 2 Whole Hours of Sunshine!

Today was sunny!!!!!! We had about 2 hours of sunshine today after what seems like days and days of grey. I knew coming back to Oregon that I would miss the sunshine. In Mexico we missed the seasons and now I am whining about how grey the world is here in the Pacific Northwest. As soon as I realized it was sunny we were out the door.  It was warm and beautiful all the way to our destination.
We went to a shop called PanezaNellie Breadstick Shop. It is funny to have such a specialized place in such a tiny town. But we were pleasantly surprised to find delicious pizza, breadsticks, salads, and other yummy things to eat. And most importantly they have coffee! It is a great place to pop in for a quick lunch or a latte. They have pastries and a little candy shop too. I splurged and got the children each a hot cocoa (only $1 each) and we shared some delicious cheese breadsticks. As we entered the shop the clouds rolled in so we did not stop at the park on the way home as we planned. The wind was blowing hard and we had an invigorating walk home. 
The clouds are back and it is dark and grey outside. But we had an outing and that little shot of vitamin D is going to get me through the rest of the day. If it were Wednesday I would wish you a happy Windsday à la Winnie the Pooh, but it is Thursday, so happy Windy Thursday! 


A Birthday Boy Turns Four and Zoolight Adventures

Our big boy turned four! We celebrated three days early on the feast of St. Nicholas. He was completely surprised to find out that not only would he be opening a stocking, but it was also his birthday. At first he was angry and told everyone, "Stop saying that because you are making me sad!" After pressing him for why he was upset he replied "I don't have a truck in my stocking!" Once I informed him that his birthday would surely involve trucks or some kind of vehicle he was excited and ready to party. I did not fail him. His cake was a construction cake complete with dump truck and tractor and I am pretty sure he really liked it.
Dinner was lasagna which seems to be creeping up the charts as most requested birthday dinner. The cake was chocolate and vanilla (one layer each) accompanied by vanilla and/or chocolate chip mint ice cream.



Getting a four year old boy who has recently seen the present frenzy enjoyed by his sisters on their birthdays, to slow down and enjoy each gift was tough. It took some work getting him to look at the presents. He did get to a point where he admired each gift and said thank you to the giver. But there was still a wild look in his eye as he moved quickly to the next gift. I am sure next year will be easier. He gave up all his toys in Mexico when we sold everything to move back to the states so I was okay with the number of gifts he received. Now he can stop trying to take apart the furniture and tinker with his own toys!



His oldest sister decided to try a little prank this year and wrapped a Barbie up for him. He did not find it funny. "Why would I want a Barbie?" he asked, "That's girl stuff!" He pouted until we explained it was supposed to be a joke like on AFV. Then he thought it was kind of funny.

After presents and cake we went to the Zoo to see the Zoolights. The idea was to ride the train but with a 2 1/2 hour wait we decided just to walk around. Highlights included the bats and the elephants (the only animals awake). I could not get the children to give up on seeing animals. They did enjoy the lights despite being upset all the animals were sleeping. It was a lot of fun! The best part is that Nana bought us a family pass so we can go back whenever we want to see the animals or the zoolights again! 





The Birthday Boy:



This boy has a great sense of humor. He is always saying something funny. He is very very affectionate and also very very stubborn. He goes from "Your not my mom, ever!" to "Mama I love you so so much!" within a few seconds. He is obsessed with vehicles of all kinds (trains, planes, cars, trucks, boats, tractors, etc.). In fact if I had to perform a word association test and my son's name came up I would instantly say "TRUCKS!." His ability to engineer things is impressive. This last summer he made his own garbage truck out of a plant stand, a tricycle, and a cooler and proceeded to bring garbage out of Nana's house so he could fill his truck and deliver it to the big trash bin. One morning I was awoken by a knock on the front door only to find a police officer there asking if the little boy down the street was my son. I rushed out and saw him talking to another police officer about the squad car's capabilities. He sneaked out early in the morning to line up every single matchbox car he owned in front of the neighbor boy's house so he could be ready to play. Of course he got in very big trouble and we revised the lock system on the house. He reminds me of the stories I used to hear about my dad when he was a little boy. In Mexico I used to have to lock up the fridge at night because he would wake up very early and make himself breakfast without getting me up. Anyone becomes a pal for this boy and even more so if there is some kind of machinery involved. I look forward to seeing him grow up. He has brought so much joy to my life. I cannot imagine not having this funny character banging on my door every morning like Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory, 

Him: BANG BANG BANG "Mama!"... 
         BANG BANG BANG "Mama! ...
         BANG BANG BANG "Mama!"...
Me: (Groggily because it is the crrraaack of dawn) "Yes son?!"...
Him: "Ummm, it's a good morning time!" (followed by the pattering of his feet as he runs off to play). 

Happy Birthday!!!


The Feast of St. Nicholas

The feast of St. Nicholas is always so fun! The children hung their stockings the night before and awoke to a decorated mantle, adorned with a statue of St. Nicholas, gingerbread cookies, and goodies inside their stockings. Usually I keep the stockings pretty simple.

Here is a list of what I include in each stocking:

1. An ornament.
2. A small toy or two.
3. Gold chocolate coins to remind them of the generosity of St. Nicholas.
4. Candy canes because St. Nicholas was a bishop.
5. Mandarin organges because they are in season and taste good.
6. Something to wear on Christmas (like a hair bow or a tie).

This year our stockings were lovingly made by my mom. She even made us extra so the next babies can have matching stockings! It was really sweet of her. There were aprons too that she made for our cookie making this advent. They are seen hanging behind the stockings. Despite having stayed up until 3am baking a birthday cake and the cookies and then stuffing stockings, I think it turned out all right and the children surely enjoyed the day.

Week 26 Baby Bump


It's week 26 now! I am exercising regulrarly and eating very healthy. Overall I have a lot of energy. Still I am ready to have the baby now. I should probably just try to forget about being pregnant and enjoy the moment. There is something wonderful about expecting, but at the same time it is so easy to get sucked in to the expectation that time seems to creep by yet go unenjoyed. Life is busy and we have so much planned in the coming months it is not a good thing to be so fixed on a date 14 weeks from now. I have birthdays and Advent and Christmas to enjoy. We also have our anniversary, New Years Day, Epiphany, Candlemas, and the feast of St. Valentine. Hopefully I will not still be pregnant for the feast of St. Patrick! But given that I should have a brand new baby by then, I should prepare things beforehand. I am thinking I will prepare some crafts for the children to do while I am with the baby or having the baby or whatever. They can decorate for St. Patrick's day and maybe my mom can prepare an Irish meal. 

Allegory of the Walking Dead

In order to write this post I must admit something that may raise a few eyebrows...I watch the series The Walking Dead. There I said it. Yes, it is grotesque. Yes I watch a good portion on mute because I cannot stand the gargling zombie sounds. Yes I look away or even read blog posts during particularly bloody scenes (which is 3/4 of the show). And YES it irritates me to no end that these loud and clumsy zombies are always sneaking up on everyone...come on people, these are not exactly stealth ninjas you're dealing with here. But there is something I really like about the show. It helps me reflect on the current state of humanity. And if I am being 100% honest, the story just kind of sucked me in.

Recently, while watching the show, it occurred to me that the world that is depicted in The Walking Dead is not so different from the real world, at least in an allegorical sense.  I do not think a zombie apocalypse is coming, but in a certain sense I think the zombie apocalypse is now.


In the show society has collapsed. People are isolated and community is very rare.  The un-dead roam about the world seeking human flesh and converting the living into horrible ungodly eating machines. The people who survive are unsure of whether they should show mercy and maintain a sense of humanity or treat everyone as an enemy and give up on compassion and civility. Cannibalism among the living has cropped up as resources are scarce and people have become desensitized to the horror. There is widespread distrust and a near complete loss of hope.   

Is it just me? Can you see the allegory? As we approach Thanksgiving and the infamous Black Friday we have a perfect illustration of what I am talking about. Go ahead and watch it on mute it is mostly just gurgling and screaming. 


This is what we encounter more and more these days. Perhaps not always stampedes. But the spirit is the same. Black Friday is simply when we see it en masse. The zombie virus? Sin. Sure it has always been around. But by and large society has ignored its existence and we are suffering the consequences. With so much of the world cutting itself off from the grace of God they walk around as undead, little more than consuming machines. There is little care for one's neighbor. In general the people that are still holding on to some notion of decency have a sense of distrust and an every-man-for-himself-mentality is creeping into their hearts.  In the show the zombies pursue human flesh no matter the consequences. They do not reason, they do not love. So too today people pursue their own pleasure regardless of the damage they cause to themselves or others (see clip above). I was on the phone with someone the other day about a medical bill that had been missed by my insurance. The man was rude and talked to me without compassion or care. I tried to remain calm and collected but I was simply shocked at his inability to see me as a person with a real problem that he had the power to help me with. It was that conversation that inspired me to write this post.  

Now I know you are probably thinking this does not seem an appropriate post for a blog called Our Merry Little Way. And you are right, it isn't really merry or bright to say we are living a zombie apocalypse. It is cynical and kind of a bummer. And my allegory has plenty of holes. Thankfully one of those holes is that our current zombie apocalypse is very different in an important aspect and that makes things a little less bleak: the un-dead we encounter can be healed and the antidote is readily available in the sacraments.

*UPDATE: I am not sure I can continue watching the show. I really have enjoyed it but it seems that the longer it goes on the more grotesque it is going to get. I realize they need to keep viewers interested but the character drama that made the show so interesting to me before is getting thin and the show is more and more about the gore (which has never been lacking). We will see if this next season can provide some redemption. For any zombie show fans out there I thought Z Nation was kind of a fun one. It is a bit more low-budget but it has a comedic element that I thought was refreshing. Season 1 is online but I am not sure they are continuing with a season 2 so watch at your own risk because season 1 gives absolutely no closure.

Martinmas Celebration


Tomorrow is the feast of St. Martin. I love Martinmas! It is like a Catholic Thanksgiving and a pre-advent carnivale all wrapped into one. For our family it is the first day of winter and it comes just before the beginning of the penitential season of Advent. I know, I know, winter technically starts on December 21st. But not in our house. For us it is the feast of St. Martin. After this day we start thinking about advent and preparations for Christmas and winter decorations start to make their way out of boxes. Our advent wreath is made after Martinmas as well (if we don't already have one made from last year).

In our house we typically do several things each feast of St. Martin.

1. A Gift of Warmth: If the children are in need of something for winter I do my very best to get it for them on the feast of St. Martin. Usually it is just a new pair of mittens or a scarf tied up with a simple bow and a little note about St. Martin. If we find ourselves with too many coats this is the day we donate them. This year we officially launched the St. Martin Coat Drive where we will be collecting Coats from family, friends, and neighbors to donate to the poor. Here in Oregon it does get quite cold and I see so many homeless without much more than a jean jacket. I cannot imagine what it must be like to go through a winter like that. I have also considered just buying a few coats or sweaters at Goodwill or at a Catholic thrift store and handing them out to the people that beg on the street corners. I have not been organized enough to do it this year, but it would be a fun tradition to start on this day!

2.  Lanterns & a Song: The children make lanterns each year and we sing the traditional St. Martin song from Germany (translated of course). The version linked above is missing the final verse which is roughly translated:

St. Martin lies down quietly to rest,
In a dream the Lord appears.
He says:  Thank you, horseman,
for what you did to me. 

You can see the music and most of the lyrics here.  

We have never had the pleasure of celebrating with other families but that would certainly add to the fun. A bonfire and treats for the children are traditional on St. Martins Day as well. Because the days are getting darker now the lanterns add some wonderful cheeriness to the day and the song is very catchy.   

The lanterns are usually made of paper mache or jars. We have not made ours yet this year and we will be spending the afternoon doing just that if I can get this blog post up. Symbols associated with St. Martin such as the goose (traditionally eaten on this feast) and a sword and cloak make good decorations for the lanterns. 

Wondering why the goose is a symbol of St. Martin? Apparently when the townspeople were calling for St. Martin to be made bishop he was hiding hoping to avoid the honor but a goose gave away his location. 

3. A Celebratory Meal: In keeping with the traditions of our medieval Catholic ancestors we have a celebratory harvest meal. While we are no longer medieval, and we are hardly farmers, I think it is important to connect with the traditions of the past and also to remember how God provides for us through the seasons. If we were medieval Catholics living in Europe, the harvest would be in and preparations for winter would be made. So a meal in celebration and thanksgiving is quite apropos. Since we do also celebrate the American Thanksgiving with family and a big turkey dinner it is a little too costly and time consuming to do a second large feast in one month.  I have made serious attempts at transferring the traditional Thanksgiving day to the feast of St. Martin for my family but I have yet to succeed. Generally we simply choose a hearty meal we all enjoy like beef stew and crusty bread with a dessert like apple pie and then we take time to read about St. Martin at the dinner table and to reflect on how all that we have comes from God and through his loving providence.

Halloween 2014

The Dragon St. George Fought

St. George

St. Margaret

St. Cecilia

Calavera Catrina

Calavera Catrina



Why Halloween is Catholic


Yesterday we decorated for Halloween, We went to the the local Grocery Outlet where jumbo pumpkins were just 3.99 and got the biggest pumpkins we could fish out of the bins. I am all for a wonderful pumpkin patch experience but I would rather spend my money at the farm buying organic produce to nourish our bodies rather than pay $0.59/lb. for a pumpkin we will just throw away. It does not have to be an ethically-raised, pesticide and hormone free, free-range pumpkin to sit on my porch and rot.

But all budgeting aside the real focus of this post is that this year is the first year I have felt it important to decorate for Halloween. It is not just Halloween but also All Saints Day and All Souls Day we are decorating for. But this year I am allowing a little more of the spooky and the macabre in our decorations.

I have been doing quite a bit of reading the past few months on the traditional Catholic customs surrounding All Hallows Eve and All Saints Day. The result of all that research is the conclusion that a healthy acknowledgment of death, as well as a firm confidence in the happiness of heaven and the protection of the angels are good things. All Hallows Eve is Catholic. It is not pagan. In our house we have always celebrated on All Saints Day with costumes and a party. I am not saying that should not be done. All Saints Day is the main event afterall. But Halloween customs such as going door-to-door for candy dressed up in costumes can be a good thing too and have their roots in catholic customs. I am allowing the children to trick or treat this year and they may go dressed as saints, doctors, astronauts, princesses or even Catrinas (a la Mexican Day of the Dead). But they may not go as happy little green witches, immodestly dressed anything,  psycho killers or anything else that glorifies evil or downplays its existence. There is a big difference between acknowledging and even poking fun at death a bit and glorifying evil. And the condition for getting all that candy is that they pray for those who give it to them including their dead relatives.

The Halloween customs we have in the US are a wonderful and rich combination of Irish, French, Spanish, and English customs. What we have now is a uniquely American day but a very Catholic American day. The idea that the whole thing is merely a pagan holiday is something, oddly enough, made up by protestants who were uncomfortable with Catholicism and a sacramental view of the world.  That is not to say I do not believe that pagan people do bad things on Halloween. I am the first to agree that Halloween has become a very disgusting excuse for all things perverse. But those who wish to behave badly will always find an excuse.  I think the issue is more historically complex and nuanced.  I want to take back Halloween as the vigil before All Saints Day. It is a perfect time to pray for the dead, to acknowledge the reality of evil and of death, to bolster the confidence of my children in the protection of the saving grace of God that they enjoy as children of God, and though as a vigil it should be somewhat penitential, it is a perfect time to have a bit of fun in the cool autumn night and to reflect on the seasons and the happiness we have in the saints in heaven.

                   
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